Love........
(Posted by Panggih Amiyoso on January 21, 2010 at 2:51pm in Let's speak English group on www.englishclub.com
only 4 digits but it can hurt someone, it can make someone happy, it can make a strong man become very weak. It can make a man crying... If you have experience with this magic word, pls tell to us how to control so we can be happy...........
success for you all !
- hello every body . really i like this topic personally i have a story about love when i was 14 years ago . i was loving a girl who is very beautiful in my secondry school . i think she was the most beautifull girl but the problem is most of young men want to talk with her . and her brother come to fight with others about her . she was studied with me . we were staying in the tablein the classroom as brothers . gradually i fell in love of this beautiful classmate . imagine i spent 1 year with her and i couldn't disclose my secret . i was dreaming about her . each night i decide to talk with her tomorow about my love . eventually , i told her that i love her . unfortunatelly she answer more coldly that " iwant to study hardly this year because this relationships with boys made for me a lot of problems . iam so sorry." i became very anxious and humble .i told her ok no problem . i left this secondry just because i couldn't meet her again ." really the first week was so hard and plenty of pain . step by step i forgot her . then she send me a letter with a person said " i am sorry about what happened really, me too i love you and i want to be in love now with you . it is normale that the girl refuse this order at the begining so as to give herself a price . so iam sorry i need your love now ." but i refuse to meet her because it was the first time to request from a girl to be in love and she look down to me or sth like that .then i promised myself to don't make any relationship with a girl till the marriage . and that what i beleive now . and i felt good .
to sum up love affect the student to concentrate on their study . thanks every body .
i thanks allah because she didn't accept my request.
- hey) that's a very nice topic and we can discuss it forever... hundreds of oppinions and thousand of stories...
well, my personal oppinion is that we can't control love - no way... I used to have a view that if a boy has any relationship I have no rights to break them... and I supposed I was correct... but last winter I met a guy, and that time his relationship had been lasting for 6 months... we started dating secretly... and he decided to split up with that girl after a New Year in order not to demage her celebration and her mood... what a mistake it was... he couldn't split up with her three more months and for me it was a real hell... I didn't know what to do, whether I should have believed or hoped or not... I was in depression but I couldn't make myself not to love him... last January was the worst month in my life... when you are not sure about his feelings, and you know that he continue dating with her... and the most surprising was that she knew about his feelings to me... well... it's a hell... hope none will have the same experience... and I couldn't do anything with my love... couldn't control or whatever... just believe... and that's all. - Hi nourddine and zhu-zhu,
even love is hurting but we can not avoid it. Everybody has different about first love, puppy love, second love, etc. And some people,maybe, still can controll it. so it is very possitive if you all can write here so everybody can read it and maybe useful for her/his life to face her/his love.
I also have one story about 1st love.
1st is maybe we often mention "puppy love" in my country we say "cinta monyet" (cinta is love and monyet is monkey). When I was 13 years old, there was one girl introduced me a love. Actually I didn't know what was love at that time. She sent me a letter. She said "I love you, you are very nice boy, i like you bla bla bla.... in the running 6 months I had been happy when I saw her smile, how the her talking, I could feel my heart moved faster than normal. Someday, I dated to her house. When I took a seat on the chair, I looked many letter on the bottom of chusion of seat. I read one by one fastly when she took me some food/drink to the kitchen. And What happen ? Like a thunder passed me. She also loved to another boy. CRAZY.... I broke my heart. Then...I still could control to discuss with her about this. And she cried. I said to her "Pls choose one me or him !", still in her crying she said that she could not do anything. She love me but she didn't want to leave her. Hard. I was angry and said "Bye bye...." hiiii hiiii hiiii....
- When there is a will, there's a way....
so think positive and you'll be able to overcome any difficulties....
I go with all of you who say you can't control love... but you can make the most of it!!
the mind is also powerful..... what do you think??
there are some kind of love, our love to our parents is different with our love to our patrner, boy friend or girl friend.
we can not control our love to our parents because that kind of love already exists within us since we were born , it has been known as an Agape love, this is the most valuable love in this world, another example is when parents love to their children, God loves us.
another love is eros, this is when a man love a woman and vice versa, this love is beautiful, but ended easily if one of the partner cheat ot do something bad, etc.
but there is a possibility to make this love become an agape love when someone receive not only the good things from his or her partner but also the bag side.
Reply by Cisca on so, fall in love with someone but keep your mind logically
that's only my opinion :)
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- Hello Karo : I agree with you that the mind is the most important thing to control the love. Maybe many people aware this. But how about the heart. We feel so sad when the love doesn't come as wanted. It hurts...but we have to keep strong. If the love is broken then try to forget it. Fill your life with more positive activities and step by step go away from her/him until we can keep him/her as normal friend, off course it is not easy and step by step again to open our heart for new love. Just keep this sentece "actually we have to say "thanks" to her/him who broken our heart, why ? because from him/her, we know "the love" and it can be useful to control next love. I know SAYING is easier. "There is no sea without wave" so take care when you fall in love to someone. But don't scare to face it. Just pass it...
Hello Cisca : I like you said "love at first sight". Your explanation can be usefull for everybody who read this.
Be positive !
Be strong !
love stay forever in the world. love is feeling on the heart but it is needed to control by our mind.
don't avoid it
Just pass it
but controll with our mind
don't 100percent follow the heart. it will hurt more.
- How about distance love.. like you never meet that person.. only contact through phone, email or etc...
Its is love or not.. or it this type/kind of love exist ?
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- Hello Fizzi,
Love can come from eyes, it can be 1st sight, 2nd sight, etc....
Love can happen because we often meet each other.
Love can come from ear. We also can love when we hear the voice of the person. When he/she is on the line then we feel happy. And we try to connect any time. it start loving.
But take care with distance love. Maybe when you meet her/she, as fisically, you don't like him/her. It can happen like that.
After loving each other, and then you live at different place. for example for job reason, etc. It's very dangerous. Because he/she can be interesting with someone. Why ? Maybe it's thirsty. A love needs touching. A love need something together. Take care that inside a love is "lust". It often happens a divorce because of this affair. So keep lover as close as possible with you. Trusting is not enough. But off course we have to trust to him/her if you are sure.
Do you all have more story or comment. Pls pass here ! Have a nice day all of you.
- As for me ,I think that most people like topics like this "love........?,beacuse only these topics that people can be together about .These matters that belong to hearts make people used their mind or exert their best to think,to feel ,to want to exprience ;in toher words it is something more luring to attract people towards.The teenagers and even the others ages still spend long times to know really what love is or how there are other people lucky or successful in love but other not ;something vague to unhide or go deep inside yourself but in the end not thing is obtained.
- i want to ask you sir Panggih Amiyoso
is it important to live with a relationship with a girl . or is it just one the of the enjoyable favorites?
my answer is : love between both sex especially while studying is a disaster for them . personally i live very happy even i don't have any small relationship with a girl . because i have an idea is : building my futur it means study hard and find job then the most beautifull girl will accept me . so here i think that human being can controle his love throughout following this strategy .
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- Dear nourddine,
Basicly, you are absolutely correct. But we can not control a love in 100percent, especially in 1st love, as you felt also, right ?. On the 2nd love, and next love, normally we can control a little bit. Even we also can not guarantee 100percent that a love will run smoothly because we have 2 hearts, 2 brains, 2 bodies, 2 feelings. Sometimes we have different in some cases in relationship and not always can be understood each other.
Sorry, I don't discuss sex here ha ha ha...(BUT we only discuss falling in love with someone and if we can control or not).
So, It's only key is to follow "love life" like water flows but take care what we pass on the river. I can say easily but pratically this love feeling is same for everybody.
Hi... for you all, pls write here maybe you all have some tips / better tips to control love so we will not feel so bad in love story. Pls pls pls write your feeling more !
Have a nice day.
- Hello Everyone,
I want to share to Nourddine this beautiful qoute that I feel would be a great insight for him cause I read his story about his first love that bring him a realization that he would never love again until he married someone...
" For love to last for a lifetime it should be between two right people loving each other at the right place and at the right time..."
...As to your experience you loved the girl at the wrong time, for you and her to felt the real love for each other is no guarantee it will last for a such a young age...But don't give up on love, one day you will found her, the one that would fulfill your heart with so much love and affection that you would sigh and say to yourself.."I'm glad I waited for her to come into my life..She's worth the waiting"...
mayumee...
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- Hello Salem,
Tks for joining to this topic. Everybody can read your nice comment.
Success for you !
Have a nice day.
Hi, ladies and gentlemen, please write here your love story, possitive parts of the story can be useful for everyone who read this, especially for someone who is falling in love now. Maybe one of you have some tips to face a love. So we will be more ready.
Please.....
Don't afraid to write, especially for beginner, just try to write or send mail to me and then I can update to this topic. My mail : amiyosomister@yahoo.com
- love is all that we know so why we don't show, love is inside our heart and our brain.
love is the only thing that matters at the end or in every situation.
Comunicate with love, think with love, work with love, live is love, love can chance everything.
Without love I wouldn't anything, I can't trust in me so I can't trust anybody without love.
I love my friends, my dears, my family even sometimes we argue, but the most important for me is the people who I don't know and if the future bring me more friends and more suitable characters,, there is a reason for live.
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- hello Mayumi garcia, tks for very good feeling as input for everybody....
Hi Steven, your explanation is ok. Thanks for joining to this topic.
I still hope there are some stories from 1st love, 2nd love, ...which bringing you become stronger even in the beginning we look so weak because of love.
Please write here........ This topic has 3 points :
1. for studying english
2. for refreshing with reading story love / it would be nice (as you can read on this topic/comment)-don't worry with mistakes. Just write...
3. as motivator for next love (we discuss here, especially about falling in love to someone)
4. share between friends in this english club.
Be sure your writing is useful for anyone....also useful for you who write here...
- hi
talking about love is the most interesting thing .
fristly whats the fact of that feeling . is it good for us or not ? is it physical need or spiritual need
is all people have experience with it ? all lovers feel with the same thing such as.. missing . happiness. sadness . thinking . jealousness. confuse ...
- Hello everyone,
I want to share about my first love, when I was 17. I took part in a Taekwondo club in my hometown, he was my teacher. The first time, i dont care anything about him but I knew him like to talk with me. After 2 months, He told to his friend that he fell in love with me, and the his friend spoke to many people. All of my class knew this event, I felt very ambarrass and quiet angry. I hate him, I refused to talk with him. My group like him and encouraged me to come with him. He was a handsome boy, very kind and funny, at that time he only was 18. I told him that I had to study hard, I didn't want to have any relationship. However, he still beside me in silent but downhearted. On his birthday, I came to his house. He had known that I like rose so much, he decorated his house with 2 roses - it was so wonderful, he also prepared every sweet that I like, every color in his room. I met his mother, I knew she was very friendly, good-natural and so beautiful. I like her, so gradually I loved him that I didn't know. That year, he failed an important examination. I was so sad and I supposed that because of me. I want to share with him but I didn't have enough brave, I just remembered him deeply. Then a long time I didn't meet him, I thought about him in my dream, I wish I would express my feeling to him, I wish I could hold his hand any manythings ...
I don't meet him anymore...
Now, I have a family, my family was very happy but sometimes, some seconds I remember him and my first love. It is so sweet in regret, longingly remember.
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- Hello Dayana2,
love is for spiritual and physical, i think.
If we love someone the we feel happy in our life (spiritual), in very detail, our heart is happy.
But also we want to have someone as physical, not only heart. Heart is important but physical is also same important. Both must be balance. For example, if we love someone then we will not allow him/her to close with somebody else.
Hi Nguyen Trang,
Tks for your 1st love story. We can see that love come gradually. Step by step. But sometimes love can come suddenly.
For all, discussions are still opened, please write more about your story.
Super thanks.
- In everybody there are two parts including emotion and reason. When a man falls in love, if the reason of him is stronger, he can control his love/emotion. However, it's not a true love or romantic becoz of his calculatings. If the emotion of him is stronger, he can be controlled by love (his reason is beated by his feeling). So he can get the pains with this strong feeling. If he could equilibrate his emotion and his reason, I don't know what will happen, hahaha.
I wish you will have a true love in your life. Also I wish you never get any pains in love.
- I would agree with
Zhu-Zhu said:...well, my personal oppinion is that we can't control love - no way...
with one correction: if it went too far. The further it went, the harder to control. But we can control the depth and foresee the might be consequences and if they don't please us - then stop. I think that kind of control is possible. But even breaking in the beginning hurts much :(
PS I'm new to MyEC and just grouping my way through, so don't hit me much.
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- Hi Pham Trang,Vladimir Zolotykh,
Ha ha ha....very nice from Pham Trang. Partly I agree with you. We have to make strong reason than emotion. If this theory can be applied to the field (in love process) then it is nice. But take a note, we don't have any formula like number : 1+1 is 2. In here, Vladimir is also true. We get difficult to control love. But the difficulty doesn't mean we can't.
So we need patient value when we face him or her. We have to understand each other, almost impossible to merger 2H+2H (2 heads and 2 hearts). Remember, even head and heart is in body, sometimes it's also different.
So the key is to respect each other.
Hi all, please write, tell us about your experience. Experience can become a good teacher.
- Hello evry1
I was wondering if there's anyone able to define love in the first place, because we are all familiar with topic (and the feeling of course)... But I can't find many people actually willing to define love and the ones who are willing, kinda get lost trying... I mean if you can find a definition beyond attraction and infatuation, you may find the source, and it may be able to control... I guess... Or maybe I'm just being silly...
So i think, if you can define love, you can control it.
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- Hi Fabricius,
Thanks for your very useful comment. So for everyone can define a love (falling in love to someone).
My opinion : a love is a feeling from insight of deep heart which can come gradually or suddenly. We can feel exactly what we feel when we love to someone. Our body also feel different on the movement of heart, feeling happy on the mind and expressively on the face.
Now we go to what is the reason or why we love to someone. The reason has to be very strong why we love to someone. Not trying or playing with love, don't play a fire if we don't want to be burnt. but serious love is to avoid hurt each other. Not only men but some girls sometimes also play fire of love. I have experience 2 times on the 1st love and on the forth love, she/they had other boyfriend, yeah...poor me. But it was OK. This part of life which i had to pass. it makes me strong and strong because of love. In very deep meaning : I have to be happy with who had broken my heart. Because of she/them make me knowing/understand what is a love. Love has to understand each other. Love has to be able to accept more and less from her/him.
Please anyone can say anything about love, story love which can be used for motivating our life. Success for you all and thanks for joining to this topic.
Hi,
I think that we cannot define what love is at words. We only can feel love. I also cannot know why I fall in love with someone. I only know I fallen in love. If I know why I love someone, it may be not a true love, maybe I only like her (my reason is stronger than my emotion). Love is blindness on my opinion. ^^
- i think through the course of time one should not take ones partner for granted. the love which was there in the inception, should be kept alive .within the two, i feel thats how we c can be happy. as fortune fame work are secondary to true love.
